Recently in my Theories of Personality class, we talked about the theories of Karen Horney (a woman who must have been much smarter than the name suggests). She identified three categories of what she calls "nuerotic trends", and while we talked about them, I was mindblown! I can identify someone I know with each type, and maybe you can too:
1) Moving toward people (Compliant Personality)
This person basically has a nuerotic need for attention and approval, as well as needing a partner that makes the decisions for both members of the couple.
Examples: Jane Bennet from Pride and Prejudice, Charlie Brown
2) Moving against people (Aggressive Personality)
This person has a need for power, to exploit others and get social recognition. They want people to admire them and recognize their personal achievements.
Examples: Elizabeth Bennet, Mr. Darcy, Lucy from Charlie Brown
3) Moving away from people (Detached Personality)
This person tries to be self-sufficient and independent. They demand perfection from themselves.
Examples: Mr. Bennet, Snoopy
I especially focused on the first type. The Compliant Personality thinks that love can solve all of their problems, and they often annoy people because they're so clingy. Do you know anyone like this? I've certainly known my share of them. In fact, I've dealt with people like this so often that I've put together a series of posts on the topic. Starting next week, we'll examine the first type of nuerotic need beginning with How to Spot A Compliant Personality on Monday. On Wednesday, we'll see How To Deal With A Needy Nuerotic Nut, with examples of what not to do as well. Then finally, on Friday, I will share with you some humorous anecdotes from my dealings with these attention-starved individuals.
See you next week!