Today, when we were visiting family for a little while, my aunt asked me, "So, who's the fella?"
Darn it all.
Why does family always feel the need to ask if you're dating someone? It's like from the moment you hit high school, they expect you to be sending out some sort of irresistible pheromones that make
being single=complete failure as a human being
and that's just so wrong that it's nauseating. Whether it lasts or not, being single is not a bad thing at all. It means that you're being careful about who you choose to date (at least, that's why I do it). To be honest, at this point, I'm really used to not dating. I can accidentally flirt with whoever I want without worrying too much about it. (Accidentally flirting is an unfortunate tendency that I'll save for another post.)
I was discussing this with a close friend of mine, and she agreed wholeheartedly. She said that "Every single holiday they all always ask the exact same questions, and after a while, you wanna just put it all on a t-shirt to wear in the middle of dinner that says 'yes, I'm still sticking with my major, I'm doing fine, I like school, I'm in my third year, and I don't have a boyfriend. Or a girlfriend, despite some of your opinions.' And on the back, it would say 'and yes, I'm very happy for my cousin who's the same age as me and is getting married and squirting out kids as fast as she can even though I'm not doing the same because I'm out having fun!" She wanted to add curse words to the sleeves for giving her family the cold shoulder. We'll just say that she feels strongly on the subject.
I'm guessing that pretty much everyone (over the age of what, like, two?) goes through the same thing every time they visit family. If you're single, they grill you wondering why you aren't dating. If you're dating, they want to know everything about your boy/girlfriend and their family. Why can't you do your own thing without everybody questioning it? They could always just ask about what you're doing with your life and then let you know that you have their full support. I don't think I'd mind the questions so much if that was the case.
What are your feelings on the subject?